2013 is off …

…to an interesting start.

It’s been weird adjusting to life without my dad. I miss him every day. Last week was especially difficult for me. I went on a short vacation to visit a dear friend, someone whom I have loved for many years, and watching this man interact with his child made me miss my dad more. Don’t get me wrong, it’s good to miss daddy from time to time and last week was especially bittersweet. I really enjoyed my time there, even though at times I’m sure he didn’t think so, lol. It was a bit awkward as we hadn’t seen one another in a long time. But, I digress…

While there, I came to some realisations about myself. One of the biggest is one that will remain between me, him and God. The other big one was that I am craving to learn more from God. I have been trying to spend more time in my Bible (I have been informed that I need to get the King James Version and put away my NIV; which I will). I actually do enjoy the olde English better anyway, just a bit rusty at reading that translation.

For this reason, I have decided to make 2013 into my year. My year to delve deeper into my faith and understanding of God’s word. My year to make more changes in my personal growth mentally and physically. My year to become a better me and find my way back to the “fighting Irish” woman I once was. The “I don’t take no crap from anyone” woman. I will do this for myself. I will do this for God.

I am also reading a book called “Love and Respect” by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. It was recommended and there is a workbook that accompanies it. For right now, I have the text. It is quite eye-opening a slap in the face. After reading the first chapter, I realised everything I did wrong in past relationships. I will strive to be more respectful in my actions and words. And when I am disrespectful, an apology will surely follow. I am glad he recommended this book (among others that will be on my must read for this year).

 

These are words to live by…

Clarity in the Chaos

Have you ever had one of those moments when the light bulb just clicked on and you think to yourself, “You know, he’s absolutely right!”? Well, that happened for me this morning shortly after 8am. I have spent the past few weeks dealing with a lot of old hurts and emotions, stuff that I buried so deep down that I never thought it would surface. You may have noticed this in my posts as of late. This is a GOOD thing, mind you, as I need to feel this stuff and let go of it once and for all. I guess it’s a healing process long overdue so that I may move on with my life and finally find that happiness I am looking so hard for.

So what was he right about, you may be wondering. Well, the other night, a friend of mine was visiting and we were going to watch another episode of “The Pacific” together. Being that I was in an emotional state and really needed to talk more than anything, I shut the DVD off and just let it all out. A little background: I really like this man, as a friend, and find myself feeling comfortable enough to talk to him about anything. I don’t have many friends like that, so when I find one I tend to latch on…HARD! I don’t love this man in any other way than a friend and still think of him as a cousin (his mom and my uncle were married until 1993 when my uncle passed away). Heck, I still call his mom “Aunt ___” at times. We have a good time together talking about mutual interests and family and it’s all good. But what he said to me was “You are clinging to the first man to show you some affection” (something along those lines).

Ding, ding, ding! The light bulb clicked on this morning and I thought “Man, he’s right about that! And I don’t even love him – at least not in that way!! LOL”. In the midst of this emotional chaos, I had been trying to figure out my feelings for him too. NIGHTMARE! I admit that I am more ready than ever to be in a relationship with a man, however I know what I deserve in a man and what I need. Most importantly, there has got to be mutual feelings, right?! So, as I got ready for work, that comment just really clicked in my brain. And I finally began to have some clarity after the chaos of the past few weeks.

Now, if this darn Bell’s Palsy would just go away already, all would be right in my world! I sure hope everyone is having a good weekend and I thank you so much for just reading my blog posts as of late. I know they have probably been difficult, boring, or just plain sad, but it helps to get some of this junk out of my system. And, I have been doing a little bit of stitching and will have pics to share very soon!